There is a lot to be said for the Prop 8 ruling that was struck down by...wait for it...a homosexual judge. Whether or not a federal judge should involve himself in such a dispute is one question, although I know suits were filed in his court. Whether or not his logic (or lack thereof) will withstand scrutiny is another. Whether or not he's right is a completely different issue.
His argument, as I understand it, goes something like this: marriage is a right for everyone and gay people should be allowed to marry.
The major problem with that statement is what it does to the definition of marriage. What has been commonly held as a definition for millennia is now tossed by a guy wearing a robe in California. The fact that we have to legally define it as such is preposterous and imbecilic.
There's an old joke, allegedly by Abraham Lincoln (himself somewhat a friend of civil rights): How many legs does a dog have if you count the tail as a leg? Answer: Four, because even though you call a tail a leg, it doesn't make it a leg.
Even though society may call gay couples "married," it doesn't make it so. Marriage is a relationship designed by God for a man and woman to reflect His love for His people.
Well, first, foremost, as a priority and, in general, straightaway, I think we married folks ought to think about marriage in a holy way. How are we doing at reflecting Christ's love to our spouses, to the world through our marriage? Are we redefining what marriage is by our laziness, selfishness, bitterness, or something else? I'm not so sure that marriage and its definition isn't in more danger from lazy men than it is from federal judges.
Second, God's not mad at gay people. He's just right. Life works better when we live in accordance with what He says is best. What's more, He wants to save them from all of their sin just like He wants to save me from all of mine. This is primarily not about legislation. It is about salvation.
If society continues to redefine and conjure, we will get what we're asking for. And I'm afraid we're not far off from that. Our rebellion and rejection of God's ways mean that He will allow us to go our own way. But the good news is that the church has flourished when society has failed.
But that's just me thinking thoughts...