An entitlement is something I feel I have the right to but have no investment in.I'll wrap up today with this confession: I feel entitled to people agreeing with me. Like most people, I like it when they do. I even expect it.
The problem is I have no investment in that. Just like I can't control my kids' behavior, I can't control other folks' opinions. I can lay out my arguments. I can explain why it's important to me, them, and everyone else. But I can't control their response.
In ministry, this happens regularly in counseling situations. A person comes in because they need help. I do my best under God to offer biblical counsel. They reject it. I can encourage them. I can exhort them. I can load them down with Bible verses. But I can't choose the course for them. I can't make them desire holiness. I can't make them love righteousness. I can't make them see and choose the way of wisdom. Ever had that happen when you're trying to give advice to someone?
This is humbling and frustrating every time for me. I want them to listen. I want them to change. And frankly, I want them to do so (to some degree) because I want them to agree with me.
I. I. I. Too many of those.
Entitlement, in this case, costs me a bigger, truer, better goal. The biggest thing it costs me in that kind of moment: to love them by wanting God's best for their lives.
So I have to move from giving advice (no matter how biblical) to wanting God's best for them. That's a much better motivation.
But that's just me thinking thoughts...