Part 22 – Marriage is a Heart Issue
The command is unconditional
Husbands: love your wives unconditionally
Love: wishing, willing, and working toward someone’s best (typically, God’s
best for someone)
Wives: respect your husband unconditionally
Respect: voluntary attitude of honor and esteem
Question of hypocrisy
The issue isn’t whether you feel love or respect – those are American
The issue is whether or not you’re acting as such
This works best when you assume goodwill
Conflict can escalate quickly because of the assumption of ill will
Who begins to end the fight? The one who is seeing most clearly
You are responsible for your side of the equation
Only the HS can change your spouse at the level of his/her heart
Not talking at each other or to each other – but with each other.
Wives: communicate to your husband that he’s your...
Husbands: communicate to your wife that she’s your...
Treasure – longs to feel valued
Partner – longs for connection